The Top 3 Reasons Disciple Makers DON'T Work Together, and How to Overcome Them

Disciple Making Movements (DMM) thrive on collaboration, yet many disciple makers find themselves working in isolation. Partnerships are vital for multiplying efforts and extending the reach of the gospel. So, why do so many DMM practitioners struggle with loneliness? Here are the top three reasons why disciple makers don’t work together and how to overcome these barriers to foster effective collaboration.

1. Fear of Losing Control

Many disciple makers fear that partnering with others might dilute their vision or lead to a loss of control over their ministry. This fear can stem from past negative experiences or a strong personal investment in their approach. However, the beauty of the Body of Christ is its diversity, and working together can bring about greater unity and strength.

Overcoming This Barrier: Embrace a Kingdom Mindset

To overcome the fear of losing control, it’s crucial to adopt a Kingdom mindset. Remember that the ultimate goal is to advance God’s Kingdom, not our individual ministries. Ephesians 4:3 (NIV) encourages us to “make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” Focus on shared goals and values, and trust that God can use diverse approaches to achieve His purposes. Open communication and clear agreements can help set expectations and boundaries, ensuring that all partners feel respected and valued.

2. Lack of Trust

Trust is foundational to any successful partnership, yet building trust can be challenging, especially when past collaborations have failed. Disciple makers might hesitate to work together due to fears of being let down or having their efforts undermined.

Overcoming This Barrier: Build Relationships and Foster Transparency

Invest time in building genuine relationships with potential partners. Start by sharing meals, praying together, and getting to know each other’s stories and passions. Transparency is key—be honest about your strengths, weaknesses, and expectations. As Proverbs 27:17 (NIV) says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Building trust takes time, but it lays a solid foundation for fruitful collaboration.

3. Differing Methods and Approaches

Even disciple making experts often have unique methods and approaches based on their contexts and experiences. These differences can lead to disagreements and a reluctance to partner, as each party may believe their way is the best or only way to make disciples.

Overcoming This Barrier: Celebrate Diversity and Find Common Ground

Celebrate the diversity of methods and approaches as a strength rather than a hindrance. Every context is unique, and different strategies can complement each other to reach a wider audience. Focus on the core principles of disciple making that unite you, such as a commitment to prayer, obedience to Scripture, and a heart for multiplication. Philippians 2:2 (NIV) urges us to be “like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind.” Identify common goals and areas where your methods overlap, and be willing to learn from each other’s experiences.

Conclusion: Partnering for Greater Impact

Partnership in disciple making is essential for multiplying efforts and reaching more people with the gospel. By overcoming the barriers of fear, lack of trust, and differing methods, disciple makers can work together more effectively. Embrace a Kingdom mindset, build genuine relationships, and celebrate the diversity of approaches to foster fruitful collaboration.

If you’re currently practicing DMM and want to explore the value of partnership further, did you know we have an exciting online community where you can engage with other disciple makers, pray together and workshop ideas? It’s like a private version of facebook for disciple makers! Check it out now!

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